The way your body develops and the way you feel and respond toward others in a sexual way make up your sexuality.
Your sexual orientation determines who you are sexually attracted to. While some people are attracted to the opposite sex (heterosexual/straight), others are attracted to people from the same sex (homosexual/gay or lesbian) or both sexes (bisexual).
- You can’t choose your sexual orientation, just like you can’t choose who you fall in love with
- Although sexual orientation is important, it is only a part of what makes up a whole person. No matter what your sexual orientation, you deserve to be accepted and treated with respect
- While some young people are certain whether they are gay, lesbian, bisexual or straight, others aren’t so sure. It is normal to feel confused about sexual attraction and it can take a while to know your sexual orientation
- If you are feeling worried or unsure, be patient and trust your feelings. Accept that your sexual feelings toward others may change as you begin dating and having relationships, but eventually, you’ll know what feels right
If you are feeling anxious or worried about sex or your sexuality, you don’t have to keep it to yourself. There are a number of websites and contacts where you can get in touch with someone to ask questions and talk about any concerns you have, without having to give your name.
Sexuality – What is it?
Human sexuality can refer to the way someone is sexually attracted to another person – this is their sexual orientation, this could be to the opposite sex
(Heterosexuality), to the same sex (Homosexuality), having both these tendencies (Bisexuality), to all gender identities (Pansexually), or not being attracted to anyone in a sexual manner (Asexuality).
Heterosexuality – sexual attraction to &/or sexual relations with a person or persons of the opposite sex.
Homosexuality – being sexually attracted to &/or having sexual relations to members of the same sex. A homosexual person; a gay man or a lesbian.
Bisexuality – being sexually attracted to &/or having sexual relations with both males and females.
LGBT– is an initialism referring collectively to lesbian gay, bisexual, and transgender people. LGBT – is oftern used to refer to ‘the gay community’.
Gay Pride refers to a worldwide movement and philosophy asserting that LGBT individuals should be proud of their Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity. It is often shortened to just Pride.
Is a person’s own private sense/experience of their own gender, being male or female, this can be formed by how the person ‘thinks’/ behaves and feels (feminine/masculine) but also how their behaviour may differ from the stereotype assigned to being male or female. Some people do not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth (biological gender identity) and can feel that they think/feel differently inside (personality/character) to the body they were given.
Transgender: Is the state of a person’s ‘gender identity’ a person’s self- identification as a woman, man, neither or both, that does not match the individual’s assigned sex. Transgender does not imply a particular sexual orientation, transgender people may identify as homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual or polysexual.
Polysexuality: is the attraction to multiple genders and/or sexes. A polysexual person is one “encompassing or characterized by many different kinds of sexuality.”
You may not know what to call your sexual feelings and you do not have to rush to decide and label what you are feeling right now, your feelings and your sexual identity develops over time.
You may find that your sexual feelings are not directed at particular people or situations and might occur without cause, as you get older and as you develop you will figure out who really attracts you.
Just because you may be able to appreciate someone’s beauty or agree that a particular person may be attractive and have appealing qualities does not mean that you are sexually attracted to them, people can be drawn to other people without having any sexual desire or thoughts of intimacy towards them, such as a friend of the opposite sex or same sex.
If you would like to talk to someone about sexuality and gender you can get in touch with The Kite Trust.
The Kite Trust is Cambridgeshire’s leading organisation working with LGBT+ young people. Formerly known as SexYOUality, The Kite Trust is proud to promote the health, well-being, and inclusion of LGBT+ young people across Cambridgeshire; raising awareness, supporting, and educating local communities. They offer a range of bespoke services to young people including social groups and one-to-one support, as well as delivering services to schools and training professionals.
Or of course you can talk to someone at Centre 33
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